In movies, you often here bitter characters (usually the bad guys) say that the only person you can trust is yourself. In reality, he is partially right; as in, you have to truly trust yourself. But do YOU trust yourself? If you can name everyone you trust, would you put yourself in that list? (I know, kind of a trick question) Do you completely trust and believe in yourself? Because you should, you have so much of your life ahead of you and you need a powerful conviction to believe in you. If you are reading this, then I know you want some form of change in your life and now is the best time to start trusting and believing in your life if you do not already. Whether you are in high school or college or working, every part of your life is a stage for you to grow. From my stance, I would say that high school and college is probably the toughest times to trust yourself, because you have so many different opinions influencing you every day. However, this is the best time to start believing in yourself, so keep reading on why and how you can take steps to trust yourself.
Lack of faith in yourself will be your downfall
Every step that you take in life requires for you to trust yourself. If you do not believe in yourself when you start something, then I guarantee that it will not be as successful as it could be. Let us say you are playing a traditional sports game like football. If you are losing in the first half of the game because you made a mistake, what is the likelihood that you are going to start doubting yourself? Chances are, you will probably do the same mistake and the game will probably be a loss. But if you move on from the mistake and trust yourself that you will not do it again, then you can carry on and win.
For me, there have been countless times that I did not trust myself, but I learned from those experiences. One such experience was when I was in Boy Scouts of America. I was put in charge of planning and leading an event. I did all the necessary prep work and planning, but when the event happened, I let someone else boss me around and tell me what to do. I let the other individual run my trip. My mentality was to be submissive and timid to the other person, because I was too afraid to stand up for myself and I did not trust myself. Unfortunately, I thought that the other individual was better than me. Even though I had a plan, I allowed someone else to put doubt in my mind that I did not know what I was doing. If I had more faith in myself and in my plan, I would have been able to lead the event well.
Even though I let that experience happen, I still learned from it and I have since then learned to trust myself. Now, I want you to think back in your life and find some failure. Once you have that memory, think about what would have changed if you had more faith in yourself. I bet things would have been different. Because of this change, you need to trust yourself. Make the difference today and start believing who you are right now and who you want to be. Do not wait for tomorrow, believe in yourself today
Trusting yourself will grow you
Once you take the steps to believe in yourself, you will see a ripple effect in your life. You will be more confidence, more opportunities will rise up, and others will trust you more. Wouldn’t those benefits be great? Of course they do. Your life will change for the better. It will especially if you are in high school or college, because your mental state will grow and you will be resilient to the negative opinions of others. I wish I trusted myself more during my time in high school, because there were so many moments that I struggled due to the fact that I did not trust who I truly was.
To start believing in yourself, you need to take several steps and you need to commit to the steps. It will probably sound hard or stupid in the beginning, but you will see results if you work at it. There are so many ways to trust yourself, but I am going to list 3 that I find really important.
- One way is through positive affirmations and getting your mind in the right state. You can do this by using a mirror. Every time you see yourself in the mirror, say to yourself something along the lines of “I matter” or “I am attractive” or get as specific as you want to. Make sure you appreciate your beauty on the outside and inside. Learn to appreciate yourself.
- Another way is to be more decisive and firm in your decisions. When you make a choice, stick with it. Do not make a decision, and then wish for the other. If things go wrong due to your decision, then learn from that mistake. Believe in your actions!
- Do not beat yourself down. If you are negative towards yourself, then stop it. There are so many people in this world that would gladly drag you through the mud; therefore, don’t take their jobs. The most important thing you need to do is to not constantly put yourself down. You are an amazing individual who is trying to improve yourself. Be kind to yourself and do not beat yourself up for every little thing.
Your growth will increase rapidly if you trust yourself
Doubting yourself will only hinder you and destroy you. There are so many people who do not trust themselves and that is honestly really sad. There is something unique about everyone and the time is now to start trusting in you. Be the person that you trust the most. Take the necessary steps to believe and trust in yourself, because then you can rapidly grow as a person.