As humans, we like to think negatively. We try to find everything that is wrong with something even if there is nothing wrong whatsoever. The news is plagued with negativity and point out problems, because people love to read, watch, or listen about it. Even though this is the case, this negativity eats us up on the inside as it keeps our mind awake when we try to go to sleep or we get into a fight with someone over the internet about some issue. This is a problem. However, this negativity exists more than in the world of news. It exists in how you perceive your choices.
Your choices will help determine whether your mind is stressing or is relaxed. One of the ways you stress your mind is you think about everything that you could have done for something that went wrong in your past. You try to fix it, but only in your mind. So you constantly stress it and it does not feel great. Instead of damaging your mental psyche, why not prevent things like this from happening. As in, why not take this easy solution of giving it your all.
You remember everything you could have done
When you are in a situation such as a group project or in a relationship, you need to give your all. You are in charge of how the event or relationship can turn out. As in, you can ensure that your group project gets an A if you make sure that the group paper is proofread and thorough or you can make the other person in your relationship feel special and loved. You have the power to determine your relationships and events. Sure, it can be really difficult; especially when the other person or people refuse to help or there could be an unknown variable that wrecks everything.
However, if you do give it your all, you can go to sleep at night knowing there was nothing else you could have done. Instead of focusing on everything that could have happened if everything went right, you will have a peaceful mind, because you did everything you could. There have been plenty of events in my life where I did not give it my all and guess what, some of those events plagued my mind for years.
For example, when I was in junior high school, I played football and I was given a big opportunity during one of my games, the ball was thrown to me. Just to note, when you play football at 13, the ball is almost never thrown, because the quarterbacks usually cannot throw that well and it is safer to just run the ball. So, the ball was thrown to me and I dropped it, simply because I rarely practiced catching the ball. I never expected it to be thrown to me, so I never practiced. If I did, then I would have probably scored a touchdown, been super elated, and never thought about that moment ever again. Now, even though this is such as small thing and I do not think about it now, it was a pretty big deal to me at the age of 13 and a little bit afterwards.
The memory of dropping the football used to plague my mind, because I messed up. However, there were plenty of times that I gave it my all and I succeeded with whatever I was doing. And guess what, I never think about what I could have done better in those situations. Instead, I just think about all of my wins, because I put everything I had into a situation.
Let your mind only remember the victories
The human life expectancy is constantly on the rise due to the betterment of technology. If everyone is starting to live longer, do you really want to be strapped with bad memories of everything you could have done better? NO, of course not! You want to feel free, alive, and happy. So stop stressing your mind. Give it a break and give everything you have into whatever task you are doing.