One of my personal problems is that I become fascinated by how well other people are doing. I can feel invested in their successes and their failures. This can be great when trying to relate to the individual like when I celebrate with someone on their wins or compliment them when they achieve something. But it is a double edged sword. It is easy to become too involved with their lives to the point that I start feeling like I am not doing enough. This is a big problem for me. Sometimes I can feel dejected and even envy the other person because of their success. Despite the fact that I have done so much with my life and I continue to do a lot, I still fall into the trap of thinking about someone else’s success too much. I know you have had something like this happen to you. It is so easy for this to happen. You become so bogged down by someone’s success that you just feel like garbage. However, there are easy ways out of these moments and moods. Whenever I get stuck and think about someone else’s success, I always remind myself about how much I have done and how much I am going to do. This moves me back into my positive state.
No one is better than you, do not think that they are
If you are like me, then you know the feeling of feeling worthless after someone talks about their successes. It can easily feel like these people are better than you when they brag about how busy they are or how they went to some party or how much they are getting paid or one of the million of different things that they are doing. But it does not matter whatsoever. Sure, it is really easy to feel like they are better, but they aren’t.
Life has its ups and downs, but that does not mean that their success is better than your success. For example, I remember when one of my friends was bragging about how much he was doing and about how busy he was whether he realized or not. He talked about how he was getting paid well, drives a beamer (talked a lot about all his troubles with it like his payments), getting job offers after he graduates university, how many girls are/were flirting with him, and a long list of other stuff. I felt a little jealous and envious. It felt like he was better than me. But then I remembered, I have everything that he has and more. I get paid more than him, I work on my own schedule, my car is completely paid off while he is still paying car payments, I have job offers after I graduate, and I am very happy right now with my relationships. Even though I was doing better than him on an eye test, I still felt like he was better than me, but he is not. We are just two humans living our lives, which is how I will let it be.
Remember to live your own life and not others
To put it simply, your life is amazing regardless if you think it is or not. If you are struggling or you are seeing success, you can still change your life and bring it to the next level. You can elevate your life, but you can only do it if you put in the work to change it. You need to stop being invested in the lives of others and start investing in your own. This is why I constantly listen to a new podcast episode about self-help or read a personal development book or practice what I am currently doing or planning out how I can bring my life to a new level. I want more, so I go after more. You cannot do more with your life if you are too busy being invested in the lives of others, so stop it and live your life.
Success enters our lives differently
Success comes differently to everyone. Sometimes it comes later in life and sometimes it is right now. Regardless, success will come into your life if you let it. If you are constantly being preoccupied by the lives of others, then you are not leaving space for your life to see the success. Invest in your own life and not the life of another individual. It is good to have relationships and help others and want the best for them, but there is a certain point where you need to help yourself instead of constantly helping others. You cannot build a business or better yourself or chase after a passion if you never leave time for it.