Do you have a friend that it feels like they drain you when you are around them? You can be in a really good mood; but once you are with them, you slowly become more bored, frustrated, and feel as if you just want to go home? Sure, you might have a good time with them here and there, but at the end of the day and overall, you feel as if you loss more than you gained. Well, here is a simple answer to solve your problem, stop being around them. Yes, it is a simple and quick solution, but it is extremely difficult. I am someone who sometimes struggles to listen to my own advice, so I would definitely would not blame you if you struggle to simply stop being around the people who drain you. For example, I have a really good friend and we are pretty close, but there are several times when he constantly rubs me the wrong way, seems like he only wants to argue with me just to argue, and have the dumbest things to say to me. It frustrates me so much to the point that I question why we are even friends. He is definitely someone who I should simply stop hanging around, which is something I am trying to do. Right now, I am purposefully keeping myself busy and focusing on myself as well as my future in order for me to not be around him. It can sometimes really hurt when I am not around people as I really gain energy when I talk to people, but I understand that I need to be around people who want the best for me and not someone who just wants to tear me down. This is why I try to find people who energize me constantly. As in, whenever I am around them, they are a constant battery that gives me positivity, joy, and a passion to do more.
Find things to prevent you from associating yourself with negativity
I have talked about this in another article, but this is something I really want to stress. If you know there is someone you should stop being around, then find something to replace the time that you would normally have for that person. For example, instead of hanging out with my negative friend, I am here, writing a new post for my blog. It is a way to help reset my brain and gives me something to not hang out with him. I am forcing myself to prioritize my blog over my friend. This ultimately helps better me and allows me to share my experiences, which hopefully help you in some way. So, just like what I am doing right now, think about something that would help prevent you from hanging out with your negative friend. Is there some new hobby that you have wanted to pick up? Maybe there is another friend that you can hang out with? Is there work that you can catch up on? There are so many things in this world that you can do instead of hanging out with your negative friend, so find something and do it. Remove yourself from the negative situation and better yourself.
Develop friendships that energize you
You must have at least one friend that makes you feel amazing. They charge you up. You feel great after hanging around them. It does not even have to be all the time, but it always feels like you had a great time with them even if you did nothing whatsoever. Find those friends. Find the friends who want nothing but the best for you. There are plenty of people that exist that can energize you and help you become a better person. If you do not have a friend like that right now, then find one. Even better, become that person. Stop looking at things negatively and be the positive change in your friend groups. You will start to notice who your friend is truly and who will fall away, because they don’t want to share the same energy as you do. If you find a friend that is willing to match your energy, then latch on to them. Make sure that you and the other individual pushes each other and ensure that both of you have an amazing time.
Remove the friends who deteriorate you and cultivate the ones who fire you up
Friends really determine how we approach life and how we feel at the moment. Because of this, make it that you are around positive friends who want the best for you. There is no reason to constantly be around people who frustrate you. Why should it be that you should be miserable along with the millions of others who feel the same way? Remove the friends that bring you down from your life and replace them with friends who build you up. Once you have those friends, you will be energized for life.
