I have a fresh story, so it will be a little bit longer, but I know you will be able to relate to some degree. Right now, there is a very popular game that I am playing called Among Us and it is popular for very good reasons. It is a lot of fun and you can play it with a large group of people. However, sometimes trying to get that large group of people is hard since the max number of people is 10 and the game is better with at least 8 people. Because of this, I try to meet as many people as I can and try to recruit my friends into playing the game so that I can play with a full lobby. This has been relatively successful and there are now a bunch of people I know who are always ready and wanting to play. Unfortunately, in my effort to find more players, I found out some interesting news.
One of my friends gets invited to a lobby with someone he knows and this person tells my friend to invite others to fill up the lobby. So my friend mentions that he has a few people to invite; however, someone interrupts and asks if it is Eric aka me. My friend, who is a little confused, said yes. The person who interrupts proceeds to say, in a vulgar way, “I am done for the night.” After saying this, another individual in this group starts saying they were essentially going to bully me during the game if I am invited. Because of this, my friend obviously did not invite me and kind of left that group early.
A day after that incident, my friend told me everything that happened and everything that was said. And because I want to know who my enemies are, I asked who the person was and what their number was. My friend did not know exactly who the person was, but he gave me the guy’s cell number. As I started typing the number in my phone to see if I knew the person, each contact fell away until there was one person left with the exact number. I knew exactly who the person was who was adamant about not playing a game with me and who talked negative trash about me.
The biggest issue of it all, I thought that we were completely fine. As in, I thought that if I ran into him on the street, we can have a conversation, but I was wrong. The person I knew was a former coworker and we talked a good bit during work since we sat right next to each other, but I guess all those conversations were masks, hiding what he truly felt about me. He was not chill with me and he did not like me one bit.
When my friend told me, I was hurt. I know that I am not the most likable individual, but usually people do not fake it to me and my former coworker faked it very well. Even though it did hurt, I am completely fine with it. I am totally fine with someone not liking me. You know why? It is because every day, I am extremely proud of who I am, what I have accomplished and where I am going. I do not need individuals holding me down or robbing me of my joy in life. I am aiming for more and I will not waiver.
Be proud of who you are and what you are becoming
As I said before, I was hurt when my friend told me that someone faked every instance that they had with me, but I have moved on and I am not going to let the words of others bring me down. This is because I know I am a beast and someone who is going to have a successful life. Because of this, I know I will have enemies, but I will also have friends. I am extremely glad that my friend told me, because now I know more information. I do not need individuals who hate on me for no reason. This just reinforces my idea that I need to be proud of who I am and what I am becoming. This is what you need to do to if you are getting stuck in a situation similar to mine.
Why do the words of others matter? Why should you care if someone does not life you? You do not need to be occupied with other people and what they think, because it does not matter whatsoever. You need to figure out who you are and what you want to become. If you have high hopes and dreams of doing more with your life by making an impact on an issue that you see in the world or you want to become a billionaire, then you need to learn that you will have a lot of people not like you and that you need a lot of grit to push on. Because of this, I highly encourage you to keep exploring yourself and keep finding new material and ways to help you chart your path in life. As in, start planning for your future and envision it. Who is it that you want to be? Who are you surrounding yourself with? What is your why for all of this? The more you know about yourself and who are becoming, the closer you are to achieving your goals.
Focus on how you are going to grow
The words and actions of others do not matter whatsoever. If they did, then all of us will be wallowing in pain, misery, and drowning in debt for the rest of our lives. Do we want that? NO, of course not! We want to grow and become more. We want to be happy and have the wealth that we desire. So STOP listening to others and stop letting their words hurt you. For me, it hurt that I was told that someone adamantly did not like me, but it does not matter. I know who that man is as a person and I do not care if I never see or talk to him again. Want to know why? Because I am awesome and super proud about who I am and who I am becoming. I do not need to waste any more time with him and I can now focus more time on growing as a person. Ultimately, I encourage you to feel the same as I do and focus more on how you are going to grow instead of the thoughts of others.
